Introduction
Proverbs 31:10-12
Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.
There is Power in prayer...
Power of praying is not means of gaining control over your husband. But, relying on God's power to transform you, your husband, your circumstances, and your marriage.
A husband can hurt feelings, be inconsiderate, uncaring, abusive, irritating. He can say or do things that pierce your heart like a silver.
However, we have been given authority "over all the power of the enemy" (Luke 10:19) and can do great damage to the enemy's plans when we pray. Many difficult things that happen in a marriage relationship are actually part of the enemy's plan set up for its demise. But we can say, "I will not allow anything to destroy my marriage."
"I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten" (Joel 2:25). We can trust Him to take away the pain, hopelessness, hardness, and unforgiveness. We are able to envision His ability to resurrect love and life from the deadest of places. He can heal the wounds and put love back in your heart. Nothing and no one else can.
It is important to pray for your marriage whether you are in a happy marriage and struggling in marriage, as we are in the days of evil. If we are not careful, and protect our marriages with prayer, we open the door for the devil to destroy our marriage.
A husband can hurt feelings, be inconsiderate, uncaring, abusive, irritating. He can say or do things that pierce your heart like a silver.
However, we have been given authority "over all the power of the enemy" (Luke 10:19) and can do great damage to the enemy's plans when we pray. Many difficult things that happen in a marriage relationship are actually part of the enemy's plan set up for its demise. But we can say, "I will not allow anything to destroy my marriage."
"I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten" (Joel 2:25). We can trust Him to take away the pain, hopelessness, hardness, and unforgiveness. We are able to envision His ability to resurrect love and life from the deadest of places. He can heal the wounds and put love back in your heart. Nothing and no one else can.
It is important to pray for your marriage whether you are in a happy marriage and struggling in marriage, as we are in the days of evil. If we are not careful, and protect our marriages with prayer, we open the door for the devil to destroy our marriage.
His Wife
Being a praying wife, other than the sacrifice of time, is maintaining pure heart. It must be clean before God in order for you to see good results. That's why praying for a husband must begin with praying his wife. If you have resentment, anger, forgiveness, or an ungodly attitude - even it there's a good reason for it - You'll have a difficult time seeing answers to your prayers. But if you can release those feelings to God in total honesty and move into prayer, there is nothing that can change a marriage more dramatically.
Prayer
Lord, help me to be a good wife. I fully realize that I don’t have what it takes to be one without Your help. Take my selfishness, impatience, and irritability and turn them into kindness, long-suffering, and the willingness to bear all things. Take my old emotional habits, mind-sets, automatic reactions, rude assumptions, and self-protective stance, and make me patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self-controlled. Take the hardness of my hear and break down the walls with your battering ram of revelation. Give me a new heart and work in me Your love, peace and joy (Galatians 5:22-23). I am not able to rise above who I am at this moment. Only You can transform me.
Show me where there is sin in my heart, especially with regards to my husband. I confess the times I’ve been unloving, critical, angry, resentful, disrespectful, or unforgiving toward him. Help me to put aside any hurt, anger, or disappointment I feel and forgive him the way You do – totally and completely, no looking back. Make me a tool of reconciliation, peace and healing in this marriage. Enable us to communicate well and rescue us from the threshold of separation where the realities of divorce begin.
Make me my husband’s helpmate, companion, champion, friend and support. Help me to create a peaceful, restful, safe place for him to come home to. Teach me how to take care of myself and stay attractive to him. Grow me into a creative and confident woman who is rich in mind, soul and spirit. Make me the kind of woman he can be proud to say is his wife.
I lay all my expectations at your cross. I release my husband from the burden of fulfilling me in areas where I should be looking to You. Help me to accept him the way he is and not try to change him. I realize that in some ways he may never change, but at the same time, I release him to change in ways I never though he could. I leave any changing that needs to be done in Your hands, fully accepting that neither of us is perfect and never will be. Only You Lord, are perfect and I look to You to perfect us.
Teach me how to pray for my husband and make my prayers a true language of love. Where love has died, create a new love between us. Show me what unconditional love really is and how to communicate it in a way he can clearly perceive. Bring unity between us so that we can agree about everything (Amos 3:3). May the God of patience and comfort grant us to be like-minded toward one another, according to Christ Jesus (Romans 15:5). Make us a team, not pursuing separate, competitive, or independent lives, but working together, overlooking each other’s faults and weaknesses for the greater good of the marriage. Help us to pursue the things which make for peace and the things by which one may edify another (Romans 14:19). May we be “perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgement” (1 Corinthians 1:10).
I pray that our commitment to You and to one another will grow stronger and more passionate every day. Enable him to be the head of home as You made him to be and show me how to support and respect him as rises to the place of leadership. Help me to understand his dreams and see things from his perspective. Reveal to me what he wants and needs and show me potential problems before they arise. Breath Your life into this marriage.
Make me a new person, Lord. Give me a fresh perspective, a positive outlook, and a renewed relationship with the man You’ve given me. Help me see him with new eyes, new appreciation, new love, now compassion, and new acceptance. Give my husband a new wife, and let it be me. In Jesus name I pray.
Show me where there is sin in my heart, especially with regards to my husband. I confess the times I’ve been unloving, critical, angry, resentful, disrespectful, or unforgiving toward him. Help me to put aside any hurt, anger, or disappointment I feel and forgive him the way You do – totally and completely, no looking back. Make me a tool of reconciliation, peace and healing in this marriage. Enable us to communicate well and rescue us from the threshold of separation where the realities of divorce begin.
Make me my husband’s helpmate, companion, champion, friend and support. Help me to create a peaceful, restful, safe place for him to come home to. Teach me how to take care of myself and stay attractive to him. Grow me into a creative and confident woman who is rich in mind, soul and spirit. Make me the kind of woman he can be proud to say is his wife.
I lay all my expectations at your cross. I release my husband from the burden of fulfilling me in areas where I should be looking to You. Help me to accept him the way he is and not try to change him. I realize that in some ways he may never change, but at the same time, I release him to change in ways I never though he could. I leave any changing that needs to be done in Your hands, fully accepting that neither of us is perfect and never will be. Only You Lord, are perfect and I look to You to perfect us.
Teach me how to pray for my husband and make my prayers a true language of love. Where love has died, create a new love between us. Show me what unconditional love really is and how to communicate it in a way he can clearly perceive. Bring unity between us so that we can agree about everything (Amos 3:3). May the God of patience and comfort grant us to be like-minded toward one another, according to Christ Jesus (Romans 15:5). Make us a team, not pursuing separate, competitive, or independent lives, but working together, overlooking each other’s faults and weaknesses for the greater good of the marriage. Help us to pursue the things which make for peace and the things by which one may edify another (Romans 14:19). May we be “perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgement” (1 Corinthians 1:10).
I pray that our commitment to You and to one another will grow stronger and more passionate every day. Enable him to be the head of home as You made him to be and show me how to support and respect him as rises to the place of leadership. Help me to understand his dreams and see things from his perspective. Reveal to me what he wants and needs and show me potential problems before they arise. Breath Your life into this marriage.
Make me a new person, Lord. Give me a fresh perspective, a positive outlook, and a renewed relationship with the man You’ve given me. Help me see him with new eyes, new appreciation, new love, now compassion, and new acceptance. Give my husband a new wife, and let it be me. In Jesus name I pray.
POWER TOOLS
Mark 11:24-25
Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them. “And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses.
Ephesians 4:32
And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
Mathew 7:7-8
“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.
Proverbs 24:3-4
Through wisdom a house is built, And by understanding it is established;
By knowledge the rooms are filled, With all precious and pleasant riches.
Galatians 6:9
And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.
Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them. “And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses.
Ephesians 4:32
And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
Mathew 7:7-8
“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.
Proverbs 24:3-4
Through wisdom a house is built, And by understanding it is established;
By knowledge the rooms are filled, With all precious and pleasant riches.
Galatians 6:9
And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.
Relationships
Isolation is not healthy. We all need influence of good people to keep us on the right path. Every married couple should have at least two strong believing couples with whome they can share encouragement, stregth, and the richness of their lives. Being around such people is edifying, enriching, balancing and fulfilling, and it helps us keep perspective when things seem to grow our of proportion. Having the positive qualities of other people rub off on us is the best thing for a marriage.
There have been numerous instances when a couple in the midst of marital strife came to our house for dinner and went away with peace in their hearts. Being good friends with Godly people who love the Lord dowsn't just happen by chance. We must pray that such people will come into our lives. And then when we find them, we should continue to cover the relationships in our prayer. We also should pray the bad influences away. The Bible says we must "not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers" (2 Cor 6:14). This doesn't mean we can never be around anyone who is n't a Christan, but our closest, most influential relationships should be with people who know and love the Lord, or there will be consequences. "The righeous should choose his friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them to astray" (Proverbs 12:26). That's why it's very important to have a church home where it's possible to meet the kind of people you need. Choose to be around the highest quality people you can, the ones whose hearts are aimed toward God.
Pray also for your husband to have godly male friends. And when he finds them, give him time to be with them without criticism. Those friends will refind him. "As iron sharps iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend" (Proverbs 27:17).
Pray about all of your husband's relationships. He needs to have good relationships with his parents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, cousins, coworkers, and neighbours. Pray that none of his relationships be marred with unforgiveness is not a pretty sight.
There have been numerous instances when a couple in the midst of marital strife came to our house for dinner and went away with peace in their hearts. Being good friends with Godly people who love the Lord dowsn't just happen by chance. We must pray that such people will come into our lives. And then when we find them, we should continue to cover the relationships in our prayer. We also should pray the bad influences away. The Bible says we must "not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers" (2 Cor 6:14). This doesn't mean we can never be around anyone who is n't a Christan, but our closest, most influential relationships should be with people who know and love the Lord, or there will be consequences. "The righeous should choose his friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them to astray" (Proverbs 12:26). That's why it's very important to have a church home where it's possible to meet the kind of people you need. Choose to be around the highest quality people you can, the ones whose hearts are aimed toward God.
Pray also for your husband to have godly male friends. And when he finds them, give him time to be with them without criticism. Those friends will refind him. "As iron sharps iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend" (Proverbs 27:17).
Pray about all of your husband's relationships. He needs to have good relationships with his parents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, cousins, coworkers, and neighbours. Pray that none of his relationships be marred with unforgiveness is not a pretty sight.
Prayer
Lord, I pray for us to have good, godly friends with whom he can openly share his heart. May there be trustworthy people of wisdom who will speak truth into our life and not just say what we want to hear (1 Cor 5:13). Show us the importance of godly friendships and help me to encourage him to sustain them. Give us believing married couples with whom we can feel comfortable sharing our lives.
I pray for strong, peaceful relationships with each of his family members, neibours, acquintances, and coworkers.
I pray that in his heart he will honour his father and mother so that he will live long and be blessed in his life (Exo 20:12). Enable him to be forgiving person and not carry grudges or hold things in his heart against others. Lord, Your've said in your word that "he hates his brother is in darkness and walks in darkness and walks in darkness, and doesn't know where he is going, because the darkness blinded his eyes (1 John 2:11). I pray that my husband never be blinded by the darkness of unforgiveness, but continually walk in the light of forgiveness. May he not judge or show contempt for anyone but remember that "we shall all stand before the judgement seat of Christ" (Romans 14:10). Enable him to love his enemies, bless those who curse him, do good to those who hate him, and pray for this who spitefully use him and presecute him (Matt 5:44). I pray that I will be counted as his best friend and that our friendship with one another will continue to grow. Show him what it means to be a true friend and enable him to be one.
I pray for strong, peaceful relationships with each of his family members, neibours, acquintances, and coworkers.
I pray that in his heart he will honour his father and mother so that he will live long and be blessed in his life (Exo 20:12). Enable him to be forgiving person and not carry grudges or hold things in his heart against others. Lord, Your've said in your word that "he hates his brother is in darkness and walks in darkness and walks in darkness, and doesn't know where he is going, because the darkness blinded his eyes (1 John 2:11). I pray that my husband never be blinded by the darkness of unforgiveness, but continually walk in the light of forgiveness. May he not judge or show contempt for anyone but remember that "we shall all stand before the judgement seat of Christ" (Romans 14:10). Enable him to love his enemies, bless those who curse him, do good to those who hate him, and pray for this who spitefully use him and presecute him (Matt 5:44). I pray that I will be counted as his best friend and that our friendship with one another will continue to grow. Show him what it means to be a true friend and enable him to be one.
Power Tools
Heb 10:24,25
And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, 25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.
Matthew 5:24,25
leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift. “Settle matters quickly with your adversary who is taking you to court. Do it while you are still together on the way, or your adversary may hand you over to the judge, and the judge may hand you over to the officer, and you may be thrown into prison.
1 John 1:5
But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all[b] sin.
Luke 17:3,4
So watch yourselves.“If your brother or sister[a] sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them. Even if they sin against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying ‘I repent,’ you must forgive them.”
And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, 25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.
Matthew 5:24,25
leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift. “Settle matters quickly with your adversary who is taking you to court. Do it while you are still together on the way, or your adversary may hand you over to the judge, and the judge may hand you over to the officer, and you may be thrown into prison.
1 John 1:5
But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all[b] sin.
Luke 17:3,4
So watch yourselves.“If your brother or sister[a] sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them. Even if they sin against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying ‘I repent,’ you must forgive them.”
Affection
Tom and Patti had been married a number of years before she actually had a serious talk with him about his lack of affection. Tom was a wonderful husband in every other way and their secual relationship was good, but aprart from the sexual act there was no affection. It wasn't because Tom didnt love Patti - he adored her. It was because affection was something he grew up without as a child.
Work
We are not expected to be neither lazy not workaholic. Neither of them promotes happiness and fulfilment. Only a perfect balance between the two, which God can help a man find, will ever bring that quality of life.
God knows that a man's work is a source of fulfilment to him. It's nothing better for a man to enjoy the food of all his labour - it is the gift of God (Ecclesiastes 3:13). The fact that many men are not fulfilled in their work has less to do with what their work is than with whether or not they have the sense of purpose.
God knows that a man's work is a source of fulfilment to him. It's nothing better for a man to enjoy the food of all his labour - it is the gift of God (Ecclesiastes 3:13). The fact that many men are not fulfilled in their work has less to do with what their work is than with whether or not they have the sense of purpose.
Prayer
Lord, I pray that You would bless the work of my husband's hands. May his labour bring only favour, success, prosperity, but great fulfilment as well. If the work he is doing is not in line with Your perfect will for his life, reveal it to him. Show him what he should do differently and guide him down the right path. Give him strength, faith, and a vision for the future so he can rise above any propensity for laziness. May he never run from work our of fear, selfishness, or a desire to avoid responsibility. On the other hand, help him to see that he doesn't have to work himself to death for man's approval, or grasp for gain beyond what is gift from You. Give him the ability to enjoy his success without striving for more. Help him to excel, but free him from the pressure to do so.
I pray that You will be Lord over his work, and may he bring You into every aspect of it. Give him enough confidence in the gifts You've placed in him to be able to seek, find, and do good work. Open up the doors of opportunity for him that no can close. Develop his skills so that they grow more valuable with each passing year. Show me what I can do to encourage him.
I pray that his work will be established, secure, successful, satisfying, and financially requesting. May he not be "lagging in diligence, but fervent in spirit, serving the Lord" (ROMANS 12:11). Let him be like a tree planted by the stream of Your living water, which brings forth fruit in due season. May he never wither under pressure, but grow strong and prosper (Psalms 1:3). In Jesus name I pray.
I pray that You will be Lord over his work, and may he bring You into every aspect of it. Give him enough confidence in the gifts You've placed in him to be able to seek, find, and do good work. Open up the doors of opportunity for him that no can close. Develop his skills so that they grow more valuable with each passing year. Show me what I can do to encourage him.
I pray that his work will be established, secure, successful, satisfying, and financially requesting. May he not be "lagging in diligence, but fervent in spirit, serving the Lord" (ROMANS 12:11). Let him be like a tree planted by the stream of Your living water, which brings forth fruit in due season. May he never wither under pressure, but grow strong and prosper (Psalms 1:3). In Jesus name I pray.
POWER TOOLS
Proverbs 22:29
Do you see a man who excels in his work? He will stand before kings; He will not stand before unknown men.
Proverbs 23:4-5
Do not overwork to be rich; Because of your own understanding, cease!
Will you set your eyes on that which is not? For riches certainly make themselves wings; They fly away like an eagle toward heaven.
Matthew 16:26
For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul?
Ecclesiastes 10:18
Because of laziness the building decays, And through idleness of hands the house leaks.
Psalms 90:17
And let the beauty of the Lord our God be upon us, And establish the work of our hands for us; Yes, establish the work of our hands.
Do you see a man who excels in his work? He will stand before kings; He will not stand before unknown men.
Proverbs 23:4-5
Do not overwork to be rich; Because of your own understanding, cease!
Will you set your eyes on that which is not? For riches certainly make themselves wings; They fly away like an eagle toward heaven.
Matthew 16:26
For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul?
Ecclesiastes 10:18
Because of laziness the building decays, And through idleness of hands the house leaks.
Psalms 90:17
And let the beauty of the Lord our God be upon us, And establish the work of our hands for us; Yes, establish the work of our hands.
Marriage
Marriage is great when two people enter into it with a mutual commitment to keep it strong no matter what. But often a couple will have preconceived ideas about who the other is and how married supposed to be, and then reality hits. That’s when their kingdom can become divided. You have to continually pray that any unreal expectations be exposed, and all incompatibilities be smoothed our so that you grow together in a spirit of unity, commitment, and a bond of intimacy. Pray that your marriage is a place where two agree so God will be in the midst of it (Matthew 18:19,20)
Break any ties – good or bad, emotional or spiritual – with any former relationships. You can’t move forward into the future if you have a foot stuck in the past.
Don’t take your marriage for granted, no matter how great it is. “Let him who thinks he stands take heed left he fall” (1 Corinthians 10:12). Pray for your marriage to be protected from any person or situation that could destroy it. Ask the Lord to do whatever it takes to keep the marriage intact, even if it means striking one of you with lightening when you think about giving it all up! Pray that God will make your marriage a source of joy and life to both of you, and not a drudgery, a thorn, a dread, an irritation, or a temporary condition.
Break any ties – good or bad, emotional or spiritual – with any former relationships. You can’t move forward into the future if you have a foot stuck in the past.
Don’t take your marriage for granted, no matter how great it is. “Let him who thinks he stands take heed left he fall” (1 Corinthians 10:12). Pray for your marriage to be protected from any person or situation that could destroy it. Ask the Lord to do whatever it takes to keep the marriage intact, even if it means striking one of you with lightening when you think about giving it all up! Pray that God will make your marriage a source of joy and life to both of you, and not a drudgery, a thorn, a dread, an irritation, or a temporary condition.
Prayer
Lord, I pray you would protect our marriage from anything that would harm or destroy it. Shield it from our own selfishness and neglect, from the evil plans and desires of others, and from unhealthy or dangerous situations. May there be no thoughts of divorce or infidelity in our hearts, and none in our future. Set us free from past hurts, memories, and ties from previous relationships, and unrealistic expectations of one another. I pray that there be no jealous in any of us, or the low self-esteem that precedes that. Let nothing come into our hearts and habits that would threaten the marriage in any way, especially influences like alcohol, drugs, gambling, pornography, lust or obsessions.
Unite us in a bond of friendship, commitment, generosity, and understanding. Eliminate our immaturity, hostility or feelings of inadequacy. Help us to make time for one another alone, to nurture and renew the marriage and remind ourselves of the reasons we were married in the first place. I pray that my husband will be so committed to You, Lord, that his commitment to me will not waver, no matter what storms come. I pray that our love for each other will grow stronger every day, so that we will never leave a legacy of divorce to our children. In Jesus name I pray. Amen
Unite us in a bond of friendship, commitment, generosity, and understanding. Eliminate our immaturity, hostility or feelings of inadequacy. Help us to make time for one another alone, to nurture and renew the marriage and remind ourselves of the reasons we were married in the first place. I pray that my husband will be so committed to You, Lord, that his commitment to me will not waver, no matter what storms come. I pray that our love for each other will grow stronger every day, so that we will never leave a legacy of divorce to our children. In Jesus name I pray. Amen
Power Tools
Two are better than one, Because they have a good reward for their labor.
For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, For he has no one to help him up.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
But did He not make them one, Having a remnant of the Spirit?
And why one? He seeks godly offspring.
Therefore take heed to your spirit, And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth.
“For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce,
For it covers one’s garment with violence,” Says the Lord of hosts.
“Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously.”
Malachi 2:15-16
Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
Hebrews 13:4
if two lie down together, they will keep warm; But how can one be warm alone?
Ecclesiastes 4:11
Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
1 Corinthians 7:10-11
For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, For he has no one to help him up.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
But did He not make them one, Having a remnant of the Spirit?
And why one? He seeks godly offspring.
Therefore take heed to your spirit, And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth.
“For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce,
For it covers one’s garment with violence,” Says the Lord of hosts.
“Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously.”
Malachi 2:15-16
Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
Hebrews 13:4
if two lie down together, they will keep warm; But how can one be warm alone?
Ecclesiastes 4:11
Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
1 Corinthians 7:10-11
Repentance
Everyone makes mistakes. That’s not the issue. But there is an epidemic in the world today of people who can’t admit they did something wrong. God says, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleans us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9). But first we have to sorry for what we have done.
According to God’s way of doing things, there are three steps to changing behaviour. First there is confession, which is admitting what we did. Next there is repentance, which is being sorry about what we did. Then there is asking forgiveness, which is being cleansed and released from what we did. The inability or resistance to do any of there three steps is rooted in pride. A man who can’t humble himself to admit he’s wrong before God and before man will have problems in his life that never go away. “Do you see a man wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him” (Probers 26:12).
Does your husband have trouble confessing his faults? Or is he the kind of person who can say “I’m sorry!” twenty times a day, yet the behaviour he apologies for never changes? In either case, he needs a repentant heart. True repentance means having so much remorse over what you’ve done that you don’t do it again. Only God can cause us to see our sin for what it is and feel about it the same way he does. “The goodness of God leads you to repentance (Romans 2:4). Repentance is a working of God’s grace, and we can pray for it to be worked in our husbands.
Too many people fallen because of pride and the inability to confess and repent. We see it all the time. Unconfessed sin doesn’t go away. It becomes a cancer that grows and suffocates life. God is “not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance” (2 Peter 3:9). It’s far easier for the Lord to shine His light upon our sin than it is to experience the consequences of it.
According to God’s way of doing things, there are three steps to changing behaviour. First there is confession, which is admitting what we did. Next there is repentance, which is being sorry about what we did. Then there is asking forgiveness, which is being cleansed and released from what we did. The inability or resistance to do any of there three steps is rooted in pride. A man who can’t humble himself to admit he’s wrong before God and before man will have problems in his life that never go away. “Do you see a man wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him” (Probers 26:12).
Does your husband have trouble confessing his faults? Or is he the kind of person who can say “I’m sorry!” twenty times a day, yet the behaviour he apologies for never changes? In either case, he needs a repentant heart. True repentance means having so much remorse over what you’ve done that you don’t do it again. Only God can cause us to see our sin for what it is and feel about it the same way he does. “The goodness of God leads you to repentance (Romans 2:4). Repentance is a working of God’s grace, and we can pray for it to be worked in our husbands.
Too many people fallen because of pride and the inability to confess and repent. We see it all the time. Unconfessed sin doesn’t go away. It becomes a cancer that grows and suffocates life. God is “not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance” (2 Peter 3:9). It’s far easier for the Lord to shine His light upon our sin than it is to experience the consequences of it.
Prayer
Lord, I pray that You would convict my husband of any error in his life. Let there be “nothing covered that will not be revealed and hidden that will not be known” (Matthew 10:26). Cleanse him from any secret sins and teach him to be a person who is quick to confess when he wrong (Psalm 19:12). Help him to recognise his mistakes. Give him eyes to see Your truth and ears to hear Your voice. Bring him to full repentance before You. If there is suffering to be done, let it be suffering of a remorseful heart and not because the crushing hand of the enemy has found an opening into his life through unconfessed sin. Enable him to understand that true repentance means having so much remorse over what he has done that he doesn’t do it again. Lord, I know that humility must come before honour (Proverbs 15:33). Take away all pride that would cause him to deny his faults, and work into his soul a humility of heart so that he will receive the honour You have for him. In Jesus name I pray. Amen
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If our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence toward God. And whatever we ask we receive from Him, because we keep His commandments and do those things that are pleasing in His sight.
1 John 3:21-22
He who covers his sins will not prosper,
But whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.
Proverbs 28:13
Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me, and know my anxieties;
And see if there is any wicked way in me, And lead me in the way everlasting.
Psalms 139:23-24
When I kept silent, my bones grew old through my groaning all the day long.
For day and night Your hand was heavy upon me; My vitality was turned into the drought of summer.
I acknowledged my sin to You, and my iniquity I have not hidden.
I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord,” And You forgave the iniquity of my sin.
Psalms 32:3-5
And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth, and that they may come to their senses and escape the snare of the devil, having been taken captive by him to do his will.
2 Timothy 2:24-26
1 John 3:21-22
He who covers his sins will not prosper,
But whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.
Proverbs 28:13
Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me, and know my anxieties;
And see if there is any wicked way in me, And lead me in the way everlasting.
Psalms 139:23-24
When I kept silent, my bones grew old through my groaning all the day long.
For day and night Your hand was heavy upon me; My vitality was turned into the drought of summer.
I acknowledged my sin to You, and my iniquity I have not hidden.
I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord,” And You forgave the iniquity of my sin.
Psalms 32:3-5
And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth, and that they may come to their senses and escape the snare of the devil, having been taken captive by him to do his will.
2 Timothy 2:24-26